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by Barbara Lazear Ascher

Category: Relationships
Subcategory: Self-perfection
Author: Barbara Lazear Ascher
ISBN: 0140234950
ISBN13: 978-0140234954
Language: English
Publisher: Penguin Books (May 1, 1994)
Pages: 176
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Barbara Lazear Ascher is the author of Playing After Dark (1986) and The Habit of Loving (1989)

Barbara Lazear Ascher is the author of Playing After Dark (1986) and The Habit of Loving (1989). She lives with her husband in New York City. Speaking to grief's many moods, Barbara Lazear Ascher, whose journey of grieving began when she learns her brother has AIDS, observes in Landscape Without Gravity: A Memoir of Grief: Grief is like the wind. When it's blowing hard, you adjust your sails and run before it. If it blows too hard, you stay in the harbor, close the hatches and don't take calls.

Barbara Lazear Ascher. Lyrical, impassioned, vivid, moving as few books have the ability to move, Landscape Without Gravity is a wonderful writer's most deeply felt work. The first book on AIDS to be writen from the point of view of a gay man's heterosexual sister. And what writing it is! "The mark of a good writer is that when she invites you to take a trip with her, you do not hesitate", wrote Phyllis Theroux about Barbara Lazear Ascher, and the trip Ms. Ascher takes us on is to the land of grief. It is one of the most beautiful books you will ever read. Результаты поиска по книге. Отзывы - Написать отзыв.

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Landscape without Gravity. By Barbara Lazear Ascher. Heartbreaking, without pretense of self-pity. Shows others whose grief seems overwhelming and unmanageable how to follow her out of the dark wood

Landscape without Gravity. Category: Personal Growth Biography & Memoir. Shows others whose grief seems overwhelming and unmanageable how to follow her out of the dark wood. Rosellen Brown, author of Before and After. ccombining sober self-scrutiny with vivid evocations of emotions and people. And-could the word be freed from its generally saccharine pe without Gravity might even be called ‘inspirational. By Barbara Lazear Ascher

Landscape without Gravity. Here too is a map for that hero’s journey we call mourning. Ascher locates the moments of healing inside the kind of hurt that seems to last forever, making this profoundly comforting, invaluable reading for anyone-especially brothers and sisters faced with loss.

book by Barbara Lazear Ascher. In July 1989 Barbara Lazear Ascher learned that her brother, Bobby, had died of AIDS at the age of thirty-one. With an older sister's efficiency, she notified her parents and arranged Bobby's cremation; then, almost against her will, she began to grieve.

Of the survivors’ memoirs brought about by the AIDS crisis, Barbara Lazear Ascher’s is among the more staid .

Of the survivors’ memoirs brought about by the AIDS crisis, Barbara Lazear Ascher’s is among the more staid and cautious. Her younger brother, son of a straitlaced New England family, died of AIDS at 31 in 1989. There are perhaps too many passages of inspirational prose in Landscape Without Gravity: A Memoir of Grief, but when Ascher discloses family misgivings about the wayward son, and when she shows his survivors driven by grief to petty quarreling, she catches something perversely human and real about the tragedy. B. Landscape Without Gravity: A Memoir of Grief.

This book serves as a resource, a guidebook, a map of sorts on what has also been called a landscape without . Landscape without gravity: A memoir of grief Penguin New YorkGoogle Scholar.

This book serves as a resource, a guidebook, a map of sorts on what has also been called a landscape without gravity (Barbara Ascher’s aptly coined phrase; 1994). At 928 pages it is hardly the kind of pocket guidebook we can look to as we journey into that land of the living and the dead. Rather, it is one that a serious student or practitioner would wish to have  .

Barbara Lazear Ascher is a former attorney and the author of four books of non-fiction, PLAYING AFTER DARK (Doubleday), THE HABIT OF LOVING (Random House), LANDSCAPE WITHOUT GRAVITY: A MEMOIR OF GRIEF, (Viking Penguin), and most recently, DANCING IN THE DARK. by. Barbara Lazear Ascher. Lazear, Bobby - Death and burial. Ascher, Barbara Lazear. Grief - Case studies. Brothers and sisters - United States - Death - Psychological aspects - Case studies. AIDS (Disease) - Patients - United States - Death - Psychological aspects - Case studies. Gay men - United States - Death

In July 1989 Barbara Lazear Ascher learned that her brother, Bobby, had died of AIDS at the age of thirty-one. With an older sister's efficiency, she notified her parents and arranged Bobby's cremation; then, almost against her will, she began to grieve. This extraordinary book is a record of what she encountered in that "landscape without gravity."

Here is a bold account of a sister coming to terms with her brother's death and with the type of grief that arises only when one sibling loses another—a grief that is all too often unacknowledged and borne in silence. Here too is a map for that "hero's journey" we call mourning. Ascher locates the moments of healing inside the kind of hurt that seems to last forever, making this profoundly comforting, invaluable reading for anyone—especially brothers and sisters faced with loss.

Comments to eBook Landscape without Gravity: A Memoir of Grief
Dog_Uoll
It was given to me during a very difficult time. It helped me to understand what I was going thru with the loss of a sibling.
Malann
Exceedingly self-serving and of no use whatsoever to the reader.

Lazear Ascher focuses far more on her own life--and its over-the-top privileges--than she does on the illness and death of her brother.

Frankly, I was utterly disgusted.

I lost my younger brother just a year ago and was so hoping something, anything, would bring me solace. Do yourself a favor and don't bother with Lazear Ascher's self-indulgent and completely mistitled "memoir of grief." It is a memoir of consummate privilege, with scarcely anything (just a few pages toward the end) about real and heartfelt grief.
olgasmile
First book I read that actually gave a voice to sibling grief. While I don't lessen the grief of the parents, spouses, or children of a loved one, sibling grief has been glossed over. When I lost my brother, he was 14, and I was 16. He was my best friend. He had been there all my life as far as I could remember. Now, 45+ years later, I have heard more said in sympathy about him that in the years following his death. People just didn't know what to say, and classmates of his and classmates of mine have apologized after all these years for not knowing how to approach it or express themselves This book gave voice to the grief and loneliness one can feel at losing sibling. I originally read it years ago, and just picked it up again recently. The author has a gift with words and phrases, and I think anyone who has lost a sibling, a spouse of someone who has lost a sibling, or friend who would like to try to understand sibling loss would benefit from reading this. For no matter how you lose your sibling, it is a grief that will be with you forever, albeit not as raw, but a sorrow still.
Arabella V.
I somehow found this book in 1994 after my brother was killed in an accident. There was a paucity of books pertaining to those who lost a sibling. Many books deal with the loss of a partner/spouse, loss of a parent or loss of a child and I was desperate to find something that would speak to me. I was so grateful to find this book and it helped me tremendously. So little is mentioned about sibling loss in the self-help book arena, but this book remedies that.

Ms. Ascher has given many a gift in the form of this book. I hope it is as much a help to others as it was to me. I am so glad to see that Amazon has the book available.
Kulwes
Guide Books along the Spiritual Path of Grief

In her famous 1969 book, On Death and Dying, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross identified the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. These stages do not occur in so neat and predictable a sequence, but are more like a cycle of radically charged raw feelings erupting from catastrophic personal loss (job, income, freedom, loved one). Anne Lamott writing in Traveling Mercies, compares this time of chaos to a turntable: Grief, as I read somewhere once, is a lazy Susan. One day it is heavy and underwater, and the next day it spins and stops at loud and rageful, and the next day at wounded keening, and the next day numbness, silence.

Grief raises the tough questions that require spiritual answers found in the transcendent wisdom shared by those who have gone before and now serve as guides along this path of many detours and deaths. Here are a few resources that may ease the way. Allow them to help you with any grief no matter how old or unresolved. Unhealed grief lives on in wait of the next loss and the next chance to find peace. Maybe Thoreau had a similar thought in mind when he wrote, That part of you that is wettest is fullest of life.

Speaking to grief's many moods, Barbara Lazear Ascher, whose journey of grieving began when she learns her brother has AIDS, observes in Landscape Without Gravity: A Memoir of Grief: Grief is like the wind. When it's blowing hard, you adjust your sails and run before it. If it blows too hard, you stay in the harbor, close the hatches and don't take calls. When it's gentle, you go sailing, have a picnic, take a swim.

At 32, while 2½ months pregnant, Stephanie Ericsson, author of Companion Through the Darkness: inner dialogues on grief, lost her husband to a heart attack, and came to see grief as a dress rehearsal, Grief is the time when we are blessed with the opportunity to complete a natural process of spiritual death and rebirth before our own death. This book speaks of the complex and often taboo emotions we all feel when loss transforms our lives.

In his collection of essays about faith and fiction, The Clown in the Belfry, Frederick Buechner observes this about life and death: If the Lord is indeed our shepherd, then everything goes topsy-turvy. Losing becomes finding and crying becomes laughing. The last become first and the weak become strong. Instead of life being done in by death in the end as we always supposed, death is done in finally by life in the end. If the Lord is our host at the great feast, then the sky is the limit.

Rabbi David Wolpe of Sinai Temple in Los Angeles, writes of his own grief through the experience of losing his wife to cancer. In Making Loss Matter: Creating Meaning in Difficult Times, he shares thoughts on enduring a broken heart: The only whole heart is a broken one. No awake spirit can move through this world without enduring a broken heart. There is nothing real that makes life painless. Accepting the pain of living, knowing one's heart will -- and should -- be broken, is the beginning of wisdom.

I end with the words of the great Sufi poet Rumi on the gift of tears:

The cloud weeps, and then the garden sprouts.
The baby cries, and the mother's milk flows.
The Nurse of Creation has said, Let them cry a lot.

This rain-weeping and sun-burning twine together
to make us grow. Keep your intelligence white-hot
and your grief glistening, so your life will stay fresh.
Cry easily like a little child.

John Laughlin
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